"What's Better? What's Worse?" - Chrome
Saturday, March 21, 2009, 2:15 PM
Be attatched or single is not about social status, it is about having that special someone in your heart that you want to share your life with. There isn't really an enrolment age for couplehood or a cut off age for singlehood. It is all about timing and the level of commiment you want to have in life. Both statuese have it advantages and disadvantages. It is up to both of you to decide what kind of lifestyle you choose to pursue and maintain.


Finances
Being attatched VS Being single
A:When you are attatched, you need to plan your finances properly because your partner would expect you to give a decent gift to him during special occasion that both of you share such as birthdays, anniversaries or Valentines Day.
Going for meals and movies is no longer about taking care of youself; you would need to spare a thought for your partner. Going "dutch" is a good idea but if your partner does not have the means to go dutch, you will need to fork out cash on their behalf.
That said, it's important never to take your boyfriend's financial assistance for granted. Being attatched does not mean you need to have less money, it just means you need to plan your finances properly.
S:All the money you have or earn belongs to you and you have the freedom to spend it all on yourself and the items you desire. You just need enough for your own transport, meals and movies and other spending needs.
theextra cash you have can go into your savings, allowing you to save up money to buy the latest gadget or pursue a new hobby.
Responsibilites
Being attatched VS Being single
A:When you are attatched, your other half often wants to know where you are and which friends are you hanging out with. This is normal, as long as your partner doesn;t become obsessive or controlling. It is only courteous and responsible of you to inform you girl friend ot boyfriend if you are staying out late for a party or with your buddies, or taking a weekend trip with your family.
It also means that if your other half is in trouble, such as falling sick or lagging in their studies, you should take the initative to offer help or coming out with solutions. We are responsible for our partner's well-being, in studies, health and wealth, after all, we do want our partners to become a better person because of us.
The problem is hwne the responsibility that you have towars your partner starts affecting other relationships, like between you and your family or friends. Many times, you are torn between these oarties, and you have to start judgung these relationships - this is especially when your other partners happens to be the "sticky" possesive type.
S:You are free to go anywhere you like, with whomever you choose. You don't have to answer to anyone else, except your parents, of course, about your whereabouts or actions.
The only other people you might be responsible for are your friends if they need your help. And many times, friends can be less reliable than your partners. When they need you, you're expected to be there for them, but when you need them and they are busy with something or someone else (especially a boyfriend ot girlfriend), you are often on the losing end.
Time Management
Being attatched VS Being single
A: Balance is the key; prioritsing is the way. You need to plan your time well so that you can balance your time between studies, family, hobbies, friends and your relationship.
What happens if your partner does not enjoy the same hobbies or activities as you do? Does it mean yuo have to give up your hobby? Being attatched does not mean you give up your personal space or stop doing things that you enjoy. You need to plan your time well, allcote the right time and energy to each important area of your life.
S: Being single does free up much of your time and energy for you to explore new things that might catch your fancy, without having to wonder how to factor in "together" time with your partner. If you are a goal-oriented person or choose to remain focused to achieve certain accomplishments, then single-hood may be a better choice for you.
Sharing Burdens
Being attatched VS Being single
A:One of the most common factor that bring a boy and a girl from frienship to couplehood is when both parties starts sharing their joys, fears, worries and troubles with each other. When information of such intimacy is exchanged, the connection between two person deepens and this often leads to BGR.
So a big aprt of having a bf or a gf means you know you always have a listening ear in another person who care about you, that you don't have to go through the challenges of life alone. Being attatched means you now give someone a special place in your heart and the burdens of that person becomes yours in one way or another.
As wise people of the old have said, happiness shared is doubled, sorrow shared is halved.
S: You are happy the way you are, wothout having t bother about someone else burdens. If you feel that your friends are able to share your problems and burdens as it is, you are fortunate and should count your blessings. But problems will arise when you are feeling bad and there isn't anyone to share your burdens with, who is "obliged" to sit there and comfort you while you whine about how you hate school or your classmates (opps). Feeling lonely is one ofthe biggest complains of any one who is single.
Putting in Effort
In every relationship, be it friendship or BGR, there are boundaries that are to be followed and unspoken rules to listen to that guide and guard each relationships we have. Learn to understan the value each person has in your life, this way, you will be able to wisely manage each relationship with the right amount of affection, time and energy.
Singlehood is rewarding as i gives you the time, freedom and energy to explore life to the fullest.
couplehood is fulfilling as it allows you to be loved and show love to that special someone you hold dear to.
Whether you are single or attatched, you should always cherish what you have and never envy others of what they have. Instead, choose to make the best out of where you are, with whom you have.

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