" Dangerous Liasons (forbbiden love)" - Chrome
Monday, March 16, 2009, 3:54 PM
You can't help who you fall in love with even if he's a guy you know you shouldn't be into. But understanding why he makes you feel the way he does will make these feelings less confusing.
he's your friends's boyfriend
WHY YOU WANT HIM
you know him better than you do most guys because you see him when his guards is down. There's no awkard " getting to know you" stuff, so it feels like he could jus as easily be your boyfriend.
MAKE IT WORK
you cannot mention your feelings for him until the day after they split -- if you do, any relationshipyou have will be built on drama. Plus, forcing yourself to wait helps you figure out if you really like him or just the thrill of the conquest.
WALK AWAY IF
You're having long intimate conversation or he start divulging details about his relationship with your friend. That's considered emotional cheating: It's unfair to her and proff he's a crappy bf material.
he's older than you
WHY YOU WANT HIM
While guys your age are cracking up over lame jokes, he's much more mature (plus he comes with perks, like more free dom and comes with a car (; ). And it's falttering to know someone so sophisticated, who could have his pick of girls, chooses you.
MAKE IT WORK
Hang out in groups of your friends and his intergrate him into your normal life and help close the gap between you. If it feel awkard, it's a red flag that you're not being yourself around him -- which means he's not the right fit for you.
WALK AWAY IF
He's three years older or more. Consider how diffcult you were three years ago -- that's how much diffrence here between you two. It may not feel like it, but you both live in seperate worlds.
you met online
WHY YOU WANT HIM
He always crafts the perfect flirty IM or Facebook message, and you feel an emotional intimacy, you don't get with most people because you share stuff you wouldn't say face-to-face.
MAKE IT WORK
You have to spend time with him in person -- seeing someone interact with friends and family is what turns your parents, and bring a friend.
WALK AWAY IF
He seems overly intrested in talking about sex, ask you to take pictures for him, or seems eager to meet you privayely. These a new warning, signs that what he's feeling isn't love -- and that you both aren't on the same page.
your parents don't like him
WHY YOU WANT HIM
He's probably tatally diffrent from your parents -- and it's exciting to meet someone with a cool new persepctive on life, instead of the same old boring parents-approve guy.
MAKE IT WORK
You need to show your parents that this isn't about rebellion. Make your case by inviting him to dinner, so they'll be move likely to see your perspective.
WALK AWAY IF
You know deep down that the issues your parents may have, they're being reasonable, think of another adult you trust, would that person approve of him?

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